How to get along with people you really don’t like: Success coach shares six strategies for happiness in the workplace and at home
・Success coach, Lisa Stephenson, shared how to get on with people you don’t like
・She shared the six strategies to employ for success at work and in the home
・These include being the grown up, being strategic and respecting people
・Lisa outlined that you can respect people without having to like them
To employ (verb)
Macmillan dictionaryによると ” to use something for a particular purpose “ という風に記載されていますね。
Two methods can be employed.
With burgeoning social calendars, impending works and long hours to clock before heading off on holiday, the lead-up to Christmas can mean many have to put in hours with all sorts of people – on limited rest.
And while this can be fun and frivolity, it can also be a source of dread for those who are forced into a social situation with someone they just don’t like.
To help, the Australian success coach, Lisa Stephenson, has shared her six strategies for success with people – whether professionally, socially or within your own family.
‘The most successful and happy people find healthy ways to work with those they wouldn’t choose to have in their life – professionally, socially and within their own family,’ Lisa told FEMAIL.
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” growing or developing quickly “というふうに記載されていますね。
the nation’s burgeoning middle class
A burgeoning tourist industry lifted the state’s economy.
The company hoped to profit from the burgeoning communications industry.
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” an impending event or situation, especially an unpleasant one, is one that will happen very soon “というふうに記載されていますね。
He was unaware of the impending disaster.
the impending elections
The player announced his impending retirement from international football.
the lead-up to (noun)
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” the period that comes before an important event “というふうに記載されていますね。
in the lead-up to the Olympic Games
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” silly behaviour or attitudes “というふうに記載されていますね。
You shouldn’t treat such a serious subject with frivolity.
I’m far too busy to waste time on frivolities like going to the cinema.
1. Be the grown up
The first tactic the success coach said you need to adopt is that you should be the adult.
‘People can’t make you feel a certain way. You get to choose what you think, which determines how you feel,’ Lisa told FEMAIL.
get to の使い方はここを参考にしてください。
‘Consciously choose the meaning you are giving the situation and the person. Rise above the child-like behaviours and identify a solution, which might be as simple as removing yourself from the situation.’
To determine (verb)
Cambridge Dictionaryによると ” to control or influence something directly, or to decide what will happen: “というふうに記載されていますね。
Our prices are determined by the market.
She claims that most human behaviour is socially determined.
We should be allowed to determine our own future.
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” in a deliberate way “というふうに記載されていますね。
I wasn’t consciously trying to upset you.
He did not consciously remember stealing the money.
I don’t think she’s consciously rude to people – it’s just the way she is.
rise above (phrasal verb)
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” to deal well with a difficult or unpleasant situation “と、” to be better than other things of the same type “というふうに記載されていますね。
Cara did her best to rise above the shocking news.
He rose above his pain/bad luck/difficulties.
This book clearly rises above the thousands of its competitors.
2. Respect (almost) everyone
‘Find what you can appreciate about the person,’ Lisa advised.
‘Don’t focus on the negatives and what they are doing wrong. Deliberately start positive conversations about topics you can both contribute to.’
The most important thing with this tip, she said, is to separate the person from their behaviour that you might not like.
Controversially, she added, we can, in fact, respect those we don’t like.
To contribute (verb)
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” to give money, goods, or your time and effort in order to achieve something, especially when other people are also helping “と、” to be a part of a group or an activity and help it to be successful “というふうに記載されていますね。
Many local businesses offered to contribute to the school rebuilding fund.
Her family has contributed $50,000 to the fund.
Davis didn’t really contribute much to the game in the second half.
He felt he had nothing to contribute to the discussion.
3. Pick your battles
While sometimes there are arguments that are worth having in the workplace or at home, the success coach said you need to learn to choose your battles.
‘If something that you highly value has been wronged, then constructively find a way to share your view and speak your truth,’ she said.
On the other hand, there might be something you don’t care about as much, and which might be better left alone.
To value (verb)
Cambridge Dictionaryによると ” to consider something important: “というふうに記載されていますね。
I’ve always valued her advice.
They value their freedom above and beyond all else.
Macmilllan Dictionaryによると形容詞 constructive ” If advice, criticism, or actions are constructive, they are useful and intended to help or improve something: “の副詞として記載されていますね。
She criticized my writing, but in a way that was very constructive.
If you don’t have anything constructive to say, it’s better to say nothing.
He has played a valuable and constructive role in the project.
She was my most constructive critic.
4. Choose to be kind instead of right
As adults, we often struggle to come to terms with the fact that we’re not always right.
But Lisa said this is our ego talking, and successful people keep this in check.
‘There are occasions in life when showing compassion, empathy, and flex in your own thinking is so much more important than proving you know better,’ she said.
It’s worth giving a try the next time you feel as though you want to scream at someone.
as though = as ifです。
To choose -ing (verb)
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” to decide to do something “というふうに記載されていますね。
More and more people are choosing to live alone.
Katie chose (= decided) to stay away from work that day.
come to terms with something (phrase)
Cambridge Dictionaryによると ” to learn to understand and accept something: “というふうに記載されていますね。
He made little effort to come to terms with his critics.
She needed time to come to terms with her grief.
keep/hold someone/something in checkg (phrase)
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” to control someone or something that might cause damage or harm “というふうに記載されていますね。
attempts to hold global warming in check
5. Be strategic
A good workplace attitude is so often about being strategic.
But it’s not only your workload you need to be tactical with, but the people within your office.
‘Consider the outcome you want and do what’s required to achieve that,‘ Lisa said.
‘Perhaps this will require you to compromise or let go of something in order to get there.’
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” the amount of work that a person or organization has to do “というふうに記載されていますね。
She was suffering from stress caused by her heavy workload.
Teachers are always complaining about their heavy workloads.
Cambridge Dictionaryによると ” relating to tactics or done in order to achieve something: “というふうに記載されていますね。
a tactical error/mistake
To compromise (verb)
Macmilllan Dictionaryによると ” to solve a problem or end an argument by accepting that you cannot have everything that you want “というふうに記載されていますね。
Her refusal to compromise infuriated her colleagues.
Well, you want $400 and I say $300, so let’s compromise at/on $350.
let go (of something/someone) (adverb)
Cambrdige Dictionaryによると ” to stop holding something or someone: “というふうに記載されていますね。
Brandon let go of her hand and ran across the street.
Let go! That hurts.
She refused to let go of her bag and kicked her attackers several times.
6. You are not that important
Lastly, the success coach said you need to realise that the world doesn’t revolve around you, even if you might think it does.
‘Acknowledge that sometimes you might be wrong,’ she said. ‘Everybody you meet and know is in the middle of their own story.’
Of course, you might think ‘if everyone was just like me, the world would be amazing’, but this isn’t always the case.
‘Being able to have healthy and respectful conversations and interactions with all types of people is a valuable skill,’ Lisa said.
‘Appreciating behavioural styles and thinking that’s different to your own could, in fact, give you new perspectives.’
Cambridge Dictionaryによると ” used to show when something comes after all the other things in a list: “というふうに記載されていますね。
And lastly, remember that your essays are due tomorrow.
To acknowledge (verb)
Macmillan Dictionaryによると ” to accept or admit that something exists, is true, or is real “というふうに記載されていますね。
He never acknowledges his mistakes (=admits that he has made them).
She acknowledged having been at fault.
She acknowledged that she had been at fault.
She won’t acknowledge that there’s a problem.
Cambridge Dictionaryによると ” relating to behaviour: “というふうに記載されていますね。
She studied behavioural psychology at college.
最後に、内容が理解でき、新しい単語も知ることができたら、必ずCambridge Dictionaryか、Macmillan Dictionaryで例文を読むようにしてください。そして一番シンプルで、自分が日常使いしときやすそうなもをノートやスマホに書き溜めておいてください。そしてこれを移動中の時などに声に出して覚えることが本当に大事です！（電車では難しいので、僕はよく歩きますw）